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Attachment Style

Do I Have Disorganized Attachment?

15 questions · ~2 min

Question 1 of 15 · level of disorganized attachment

I want to be close to someone and, at the same time, that very closeness puts me on alert.

More about this test

This test focuses on attachment's most contradictory pattern: wanting closeness while, at the same time, feeling it as a threat. It doesn't measure anxiety or avoidance separately, it measures the back-and-forth between the two.

  • Low: the way you move closer or pull away is generally predictable, even to yourself.
  • Moderate: there are moments of contradiction, without them dominating your relationships.
  • High: you frequently swing between seeking closeness and protecting yourself from it, almost with no transition.

15 statements, about 3-4 minutes. If you want a full map of your attachment style, you can take the full attachment style test afterward.

All possible results

Low Disorganized Attachment

The way you move closer or pull away in a relationship is generally coherent and predictable, even to yourself.

Read more about Low Disorganized Attachment

“Not feeling closeness and distance pulling you in opposite directions at the same time is, in itself, a form of stability.”

What this score means

Your answers don't show the internal-contradiction pattern (wanting and fearing closeness at once) this axis describes. That doesn't mean an absence of anxiety or a need for space, it means that when they show up, they don't clash with each other in a disorganized way.

How it shows up day to day

  • Trusting someone doesn't, at the same time, make you feel like you're in danger.
  • Your reactions in close relationships don't usually surprise even you.
  • You can describe your relationship history in a reasonably orderly way.

An important clarification

This result is orientation-only and informational, inspired by Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory and later research on the topic: it isn't a diagnosis and doesn't replace an assessment by a mental health professional.

Moderate Disorganized Attachment

There are moments of contradiction between seeking closeness and protecting yourself from it, without it being the dominant pattern in your relationships.

Read more about Moderate Disorganized Attachment

“Feeling two opposing impulses at once, occasionally, isn't the same as living inside that back-and-forth: the difference is in frequency and intensity.”

What this score means

Your answers show some ambivalence (wanting closeness and distrusting it) in certain relationships or in higher-stress moments, without it being the norm across all your relationships.

How it shows up day to day

  • In one particular relationship, you notice you ask for help and then regret having done it.
  • Faced with a lot of closeness, you occasionally doubt whether to feel relieved or on alert.
  • Outside those moments, the way you relate to others is reasonably stable.

An important clarification

This result is orientation-only and informational, inspired by Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory and later research on the topic: it isn't a diagnosis and doesn't replace an assessment by a mental health professional.

High Disorganized Attachment

You frequently swing between seeking closeness and protecting yourself from it, with relationships that mix a desire for intimacy with distrust.

Read more about High Disorganized Attachment

“Disorganized attachment isn't indecision: it's two alarm systems, the one that seeks closeness and the one that protects against it, firing almost at the same time.”

What this score means

Your answers describe a pattern where the desire for closeness and the need to protect yourself from it coexist, instead of resolving into one stable direction, as happens with anxious attachment (only seeking) or avoidant attachment (only avoiding).

How it shows up day to day

  • You can go from needing a lot of contact to wanting to disappear, almost with no transition.
  • Trusting someone feels necessary and risky to you at the same time.
  • With some people, you repeat the same pattern of moving closer and then suddenly pulling back.

Where it usually comes from

According to attachment theory, it's associated with environments where the caregiving figure was itself a source of both fear and comfort, so that no strategy (moving closer or pulling away) proved reliable consistently. According to the literature, it's the style that most often benefits from professional support, precisely because of that lack of a stable strategy to fall back on.

An important clarification

This result is orientation-only and informational, inspired by Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory and later research on the topic: it isn't a diagnosis and doesn't replace an assessment by a mental health professional.

Frequently asked questions

How is disorganized attachment different from anxious or avoidant attachment?

Anxious attachment consistently seeks closeness, and avoidant attachment consistently avoids it. Disorganized attachment combines both impulses at once, contradictorily, instead of resolving into one stable direction.

Is this the least common attachment style?

Yes, it's usually described as the least common of the four classic styles, and also the one the literature most often associates with the value of professional support.

Can I have disorganized attachment only with one specific person?

Yes. The pattern can activate more intensely in specific relationships (often the most significant ones) without necessarily showing up the same way in every relationship.

Does this test replace a psychological evaluation?

No. It's a short, informational test. If the back-and-forth between closeness and distance is causing you significant distress, consulting a psychology professional is the recommended path.

How long does the test take?

Between 3 and 4 minutes: 15 statements with five response options each.

Is it free?

Yes, it's completely free: no sign-up or payment needed to take the test and see your result.

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